If you have been reading my blogs, you can tell that my mind is scattered. I think about everything, and most of the time I overthink topics. This one hits close to my heart and believe me, I’ve been thinking about it for days.
Have you ever loved someone so much, or think you love them so much, that you cannot let go? They can tell you straight to your face “I do not love you”. However, you love them so much that you don’t believe their words. Your heart aches and falls apart, to the point you will do anything for them to keep you by their side. You find in your head a reason why they don’t love you. You make excuses, to stay by their side. You feel so sick, so down, so terrible that you block what is reality. You cannot let them go. You feel like if you stay, you can help them, you can change them, you can be patient and maybe, just maybe, one day they will say “I love you”.
Just because you been there for everything, you have done anything and everything for them, that doesn’t mean they will ever love you. They might not ever say those words. They might never feel the same way. However, you decide to stay. You hold on tight for dear life, and stay by their side. Believe they need you more than you need them? In reality you need them more, because you are all alone in the world? Yes, that’s a question. Which one is it? Do you feel that lonely, that you won’t let them go even if they want you gone? Or do you think they can’t love you because they think no one can love them like you do?
There are many questions and scenarios I can think of. Begging to someone to keep you and give you a chance at love might sound degrading. Getting on your knees crying, saying that you don’t care if they love you or not, you will be there for them might sound desperate. When do you know its real love and not separation anxiety?
What is love? When does it become unconditional love? There is no bullying from either part, there is no violence, there is no malice. But for some reason, they think they cannot love you, and maybe they never will. What will you do? Do you make them realize, that they can’t tell the future and to give you a chance at love? Take a risk with you, what’s the worst that can happen? A year from now, you guys are the happiest couple, or just decide to go your separate ways. There is no way to tell the future.
If there is no one else in the picture, if you are happy, and enjoy time together, why not give it a chance? There is no reason, and no statement saying, that if he/she doesn’t love you, you need to leave them. You love them, you are patient, you will do anything for them. You want to make their dreams come true. That’s the reason you stay. Do no stay because you feel alone, stay because you really want them to be happy, and you know in your heart you can make their life better.
You beg them to stay with you, because in your heart, you truly believe, right now, you are the best choice for them. You can help them, encourage them, and help them succeed. It is not about us staying alone. It’s about what is best for them, because you are the one that is carrying the relationship, you will love for both of you. Do not let go.
It is not sick, it’s not selfish, it actually selfless, it is true love. Don’t let them go because they think you are better off without them. They do not know what’s inside your heart and mind. When you love someone, it’s all about them, not you. If they aren’t hurting you, don’t let go.
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