Monday, January 2, 2017

Every Job Has its Benefits

Every job has its benefits, for me has been life-long-learning.
If it wasn’t for all these little, random jobs, there would be many things, I would not know and made me into a better and knowledgeable person.
My first job, I work in a mom and pops grocery store. I can say that store taught me a lot. I was fresh out of the island, with very little English knowledge. I was also 13. I learned responsibility, cashing checks, how a register works, how inventory is made and how to order things by demographics. I also learned how to count large quantities of money and deal with many types of people from different backgrounds. Needless to said by the time I left that store, I knew fluent English, and I left as a Manager.
I remember working at a fast-food restaurant. That thought me, how to be fast and efficient, and that people complain about the smallest things, but you never know why they are being bitchy, so you treat them nice.  I also learn that just because its label “meat” doesn’t mean its high-quality meat.
I worked in a clothing store. I learned how to fold HUGE sweaters in a neat matter, that to this day, people are amazed at my folding skills.
I also learned at another job, that the 3 prong plugs, have a grounding prong, that helps them protect them from surges. I also learned that you can power mini LED lights with watch batteries. I learn that salespeople will go to extremes to make a sale, and some will even lie to get you on your side. However, when we sale, we are knowledgeable about the product, we just do white lies to gain your trust.
I learned to be nice to people working in retail, especially on holidays. They have spent so much time behind the scenes to make the store perfect for your convenience, and are tired and grumpy because they have not seen their families for days, or won’t be home for the holidays.
I also learn, that EMS people we curse a lot behind the scenes, and we use codes to communicate information you don’t want other people to understand or to feel offended by. They are also so many people that lie about their conditions, so they can pass the waiting on the emergency room.  For example, if you feel like death but, there are a million-people waiting on the waiting room, say you are short of breath of have chest pain, and they will triage you first. They will find out you are lying but they won’t say anything, and you probably still must wait. But now you are done with triage. That’s a mess up tip…. I would not do it, unless you really feeling like you can’t breathe and your chest it’s going to explode.
Working in a hair salon, I learned that with SUPER curly hair using a comb behind the straightener, you will get less frizz, and will get the individual strands better, and always use small chunks of hair.
Oh my, the things I have learn on a call center, I will bore you to death with an essay. But, there is always someone higher that can do something about your issue. If you know you are right and entitle to it. Do not give up!
I learned that coffee comes from different continents, and they have specific flavors because of the flora around the coffee grounds.
I have learned way more than I can type today in this blog. I would have to really break it by job, and type one entry per job. But, my point is, just because it’s a small job, and you might not be getting paid what you want. Look at the benefits to it. Learn everything you can. Because it will help you in the future.



Wednesday, April 13, 2016

True Treasure

A true treasure is not silver and gold, found in a pirate ship in the bottom of the ocean. A true treasure isn't ruby rings and jewels from long ago. You don't need a map. The true treasure is simply the love and joy found between you and me. ~Carmen Scott 

My thoughts of you

My thoughts of you

By Carmen Scott “Medina Bulerin” ©2002-2016

How can I love someone I have never seen? So passionate, that makes my heart skip a beat at the sound of his voice.
How can I feel his hands on my body, when he has never touch me? How can I feel his lips kiss me, when he has never whisper my name in the night?
A love with such passion that I would never imagine it on my wildest dreams. Could it be possible? Would you turn it away in fear that it could never be real? For I have never known such love?
This love, will I take the chance? A Chance of a heartbreak, for I have known a life time of heartbreaks.
But to know that for just one moment in my life, with passion, feeling, want and need, I would give myself entirely to him. Without regrets, sorrow or remorse, just to him.
His wants, needs, love, life, I couldn’t deny it to him.
To deny such love would be the most fatal of mistakes. To deny myself his love would be an injustice within itself.
To the name of love, and to have love based on spiritual, and not a physical beginning, could only result in the most special of love.

The love you wait a life time for. Love so strong that heaven nor earth could stop it from being. A love for you and I, a love for eternity. These are my thoughts of you. 

Sunday, April 10, 2016

Love Like Yours

Love Like Yours

Can I remember life before I met you?
It’s a different world now, I am part of two.
It’s been some time now, and I’m no longer alone.
Love like yours, I’d never before know.

The things I consider on days like this.
Are the small moments, so full of bliss?
A kiss on my forehead, a glance across the bed,
Laughing with you until my blood pounds in my head.

Your warm eyes, are where I find my strength.
A day spent without you, is of unbearable length.
Is it absurd, that love makes me feel this way?
Silly and giddy with this Valentine’s display.

It is in your arms that my day begins and ends.
We are not only lovers; we are best friends.
I treasure you, as I never dreamed I could.

So thank you, for giving me something this good.


I wrote this one in 2003 

The song of Destiny

This one is from way back in December 24, 2002:
The song of Destiny

Walking in the rain,
Destiny talked to me
It showed me the way, and it told me to run away
Suffering tears, weeping surrounds
My eternal life without you.
Destiny knew
It told me to run away
With a thorn in my heart
I sadly looked away
To my dreams of you destroyed.
Oh my love time is short.
Destiny gave me a clue,
It told me that you shall know
My love is you.
It never ended, it never faded.
The love that destiny once knew
Once again it comes to me

And my love will last as long as forever.

Friendship

Friendship

When you are sad, I will dry your tears. When you are scared I will ease your fears. When you are worried I will give you hope. If you want to give up, I’ll help you cope. When you’re lost and can’t see the light I’ll be your beacon shinning so bright This is my oath that I pledge to the end. Why you may ask?
Because you are my friend…


Carmen Scott

Sunday, February 28, 2016

New Age Dating

Dating is exhausting. Trying to find a person that its decent enough for you to try to have a relationship with, is a fulltime job.  As a woman, its sometimes very overwhelming. I created a profile on several dating sites, and within few hours, I had way too many messages. I was instantly overwhelming. Half of them did not read my profile. I put something in the middle of my biography that there were supposed to put on the subject, that let me know they actually took the time to read.
There were some decent guys, there were some creeps, there were all kinds of guys. It is a very hard way to make selections. Too many messages to address.  I can tell a lot of them just clicked on my picture and liked it, and move on. Or said they wanted to meet but no real conversations. I clicked on a couple and read some interesting profiles. I talked to a few of the guys. Some immediately, wanted more pictures. Some were interested in me personally, but then asked for revealing pictures. I am not sure what are the qualifications for a woman to date.
I am very comfortable with my body, and personality. So it was not issue for me to show a little more skin. However, there to many demands. Show me this, show me that, there is nothing to leave for the imagination.  Everyone is so shallow.
I dated a person from a site I fell in love with. We had an awesome relationship until he decided he preferred to deal with his issues alone, then to share them with me. I was left confused. I often question if it was me, which he assured me, it wasn’t me, it was him. (typical) He is not a bad guy, and nothing about us breaking up made sense. So after many tries, I gave up. We decided to remain friends. So I hit the Internet again.
I have been lied, guys say they are single, then they have families and girls living at home, others, are simply only after one thing and some have these high standards and weird questions. I starting to believe that dating offline will be best. That get to know someone every day, until you fall in love, share your time and experiences, until you cannot stop thinking about each other.
Whatever happened if you saw a girl, you smiled, and talk to her. Nowadays guys are too shy, or scared to do that. There is nothing wrong on asking a girl if she is single or not, if you find her attractive, and she is alone, and wearing no ring, sure say hi, smile and ask… I would do the same.
Online dating, is a game changer indeed. It allows shy people that otherwise wouldn’t talk to you in person to talk to you, however its full of complications, and for a person with severe anxiety, ADHD and depression, I don’t think is the best outlet, unless you have a lot of time on your hands to really go on many dates and find someone.
Before my last relationship, I think I went on over 10 dates before I met a decent guy, and even then, apparently we were not right for each other.  Do not get me wrong, I have made good male friends along the way, not everyone you meet online wants just sex. There are truly amazing people, that you can connect even if doesn’t end up in a relationship. You just never know what the future might bring.
Building a strong relationship should always start with friendship, then trust and devotion. Then finally in love.
Have fun dating, whether is online or in person.